You’ve probably written a few on these lines, but here goes. I’m a lecturer with a crush on a colleague. He’s tall, handsome and very sexy. I have all sorts of fantasies about him. Id love your input on what I can do to and with this “friend”.

thanks Micheal.

A huge fan.

Claudi

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Thanks Claudi,

First off thanks for enjoying time here with me.  I rarely hear that I have a fan and I am humbled by that.  Its my deepest desire to make others feel love and passion, create pleasure so thank you.

I have several questions about this gentleman who has caught your eye so maybe we can chat about him when you find time.  I would also love to hear your fantasies with him, what makes your body ache for him.  Is it passionate love?  Is it his strong rough hands on you?  Do you think of how his mouth will feel against your tender flesh?  Mmmmm I do love when an attraction turns into fantasy.

So how often do you see him/work with him?  If it is daily it may be easier to slowly build a flirtatious relationship to show interest.  Eye contact is a powerful way to show someone there is interest.  The glance, the flutter, and looking into his eyes when in conversation but let him see you checking out his other features too.  Men are not the only creatures that let their eyes give away attractions.  Eyes are beautiful, deep, warm, and can smile if you let them.  

If you are talking with him then always show you are interested in the topic (even if your not) by leaning in a bit with your body, a soft laugh, a light touch on his hand or arm, nibbling your bottom lip at the later stages of flirting is an incredible turn on.  Ask questions if you don’t understand, let him talk about what he is passionate for so you can get more clues to what he enjoys.  If he mentions his addiction for pasta, it could lead to an offer to go somewhere for lunch, dinner, or invite to cook for him for example.   

The way you dress and present yourself.  You don’t have to be a slutty dresser to turn a man on.  I find that even casual clothing is sexy in the right setting.  Professional dress add stocking, glasses (even if you don’t need them).  Wear a V neck top or have an extra button undone to tease a bit of your curves.  I can talk about different looks that are attractive to me but its about his taste.  Have you ever caught him looking at you or another woman?  Be conscious of what you have on when he does, including perfume, make up, hair styles.   I prefer hair to be down and flowing over the shoulders but still have moments that pig tails and braids are wanted. 

I find when a woman is confident and even aggressive about something she wants to be seductive.  We all have shyness or self doubt, all of us, but there are moments where you can push yourself to show someone what you are interested in.  I hope that this helps you get started but I will admit having conversation with you in chat will allow for some back n forth so I can learn about the type of guy he is so I can provide more specific ideas.

I am sure if you show him the real you and hint/tease at your interest the opportunity will be there for more than friendship.  Flirt with his senses.